I had a friendship that ended a few years ago, and I figured that the hollow, bittersweet finality I felt was “closure.” I realize now that although I was honest with myself about the close of that relationship, that didn’t mean I had closure, I had never really felt the peace of true closure. Today I saw that person happy and felt vaguely glad that they were happy in their own life, but no regret that they were no longer in mine. That’s finality. That’s true “closure.”
...And there was literally NO way to force it to happen, it just happened with time, and only when I wasn’t paying attention or trying to force it.Closure isn't this magical thing that happens you figure out what happened and why. It's the simple, almost undetectable change in attitude that most people like to call forgiveness, moving on. It's simple. And it's beautiful.
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